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Puppy love Dear Dr. Lovemonkey, I have a 15-year-old daughter who seems to be totally taken by older guys in rock bands, like David Lee Roth, Robert Plant, and Roger Daltrey. I’m wondering if this is going to become a problem as she gets older. Do you think she’ll continue to be enamored of much older men? If so, I’d like to know what I can do to head this off at the pass. — Concerned Dad Dear Concerned Dad, This doesn’t sound like any sort of weird behavior. Like a lot of younger kids, she’s into music and icons from an earlier generation. Sounds perfectly normal to me. As she gets a bit older and starts getting more intimately involved with people her own age, her worship of aging rock stars will ebb. Nothing to worry about now, Dad. Dear Dr. Lovemonkey, I met a beautiful woman Thursday, July 3 at 20 Water Street in East Greenwich, and unfortunately, didn’t get her phone number. I can’t stop thinking about her beautiful smile and our dance. I am hoping you could run this letter in hopes of her or her friends seeing it. She is from North Dartmouth and is a nurse at an assisted living facility for Alzheimer’s patients. She is tall, brunette, and was with two friends with whom she is taking belly-dancing classes (one of the girls is the instructor). I know it’s not much to go on, but any advice on how I can find this person would be greatly appreciated. I don’t know where else to turn. Thanks! — Mark Dear Mark, Generally, Dr. Lovemonkey is not in the business of a running a localized dating service, but I will print your letter, and perhaps, the woman you’re seeking (or one of her belly dancing cohorts) will see it and get back to me. Dear Dr. Lovemonkey, I’ve been married to my husband for eight years. We first met when I was 18 (I’m 28 now), and he was 29. Things have been okay, but not great since then. Once, a number of years ago, he slept with one of my younger sister’s 17-year-old friends. It was tough, but I forgave him. But I have always noticed his interest in teenaged girls. He continues to be very friendly and flirtatious with very young girls and it is starting to really bother me. I have no evidence that there’s been any more infidelity, but I don’t know for certain. I would like to erase these doubts from my mind, but I’m having trouble doing it. Do you know what I can do? — Sick of Being Worried Dear Sick of Being Worried, His behavior with teenaged girls is absolutely inappropriate. I trust your instincts on this (as you should, too), and suggest that you see him as someone fixated on very young females. I am amazed you’ve stayed with him for so long. I’d suggest going to a good counselor immediately, but it may already be too late. If he will go and you can confront him about his behavior in front of a professional therapist, this is the only thing that could possibly salvage your marriage. I do think, though, your husband has never grown up and is not likely to. I would be prepared to shed myself of this bad bill of goods. Send queries and romantic quandaries to RUDYCHEEKS@prodigy.net.
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